That was September 2020. I weighed 165 kilos. My waist measured 46 inches. Two Domino's pizzas at lunch. A tube of Pringles on the side. A Chinese takeaway for dinner. Plus 35 Double Decker bars every single week.
I worked as an insurance broker. I'd come home, sit on the couch, and not move until bed. No energy. No motivation. No drive. Every morning I'd promise myself: today's the day I change. Every night I'd be face down in a pizza box thinking, tomorrow.
Today I weigh 15 stone. I've lost 11 stone in 18 months. I joined a boxing gym, fell in love with the sport, had my first amateur fights, and now I'm training to turn professional.
But here's the thing nobody tells you about losing weight at 29 — it had almost nothing to do with willpower.
— Tobie
Why willpower isn't your problem
If you're reading this, you've probably tried to lose weight before. Maybe more than once. You've watched yourself slip back every time and blamed yourself for being weak. I did that for years.
It wasn't until I understood what was actually happening inside my body that anything stuck. And what I learned is something most blokes over 30 don't realise:
Your weight isn't a willpower problem. It's a hormone problem. When you're carrying extra weight, your testosterone tanks. When your testosterone tanks, your energy, drive, motivation, and metabolism all go with it. It's a trap — and the only way out is to break the cycle.
